Giving the fake life the flick!

FAKE

adjective
  1. not genuine; imitation or counterfeit.
    “she got on the plane with a fake passport”

Over the years I have begun to realize many things about people, that in turn has made me learn things about myself. I don’t know if its a case of “as i get older” or I don’t know, but over the last 6-12months I have found myself questioning my values, specifically “Fakeness”, I have had this discussion recently with a few close friends.

 

Toxic people always want you bring you down, but they will generally do it with a smile on their face while pretending to be a Friend to your face but behind your back you are no where near good enough to “hang with them” or “did you see what they were wearing” these people are not worth your time, like at all. Because to be honest not everyone in life is going to like you and its OK! you don’t have to like them either and guess what….that’s OK too!

Honesty is the best policy.

I am a firm believer in being nice to everyone generally they people I consider fake say nice things to peoples face but in the back ground are telling someone else how they didn’t really mean what they said, Manners go a long way, however I am not going out of my way to be sickly nice to someone I actually don’t like. This will often get you a reputation for being a bitch….but i think the fact that some people get so affronted by the fact someone may not like them  the only way they know to cope it to bitch behind your back or try to win over your affections is much worse (this actually turns me into a bitch when people start doing this)

Stop being afraid to be your self!

Stop trying to be like everyone else, we are all on our own journey, we are learning things from the people around us every day, we go through highs and lows at different times, surround your self with a handful of genuine people who listen, support, advise but ultimately let you make your own mistakes but will still  be there when it all comes crashing down to set you back on the path older and wiser and their to laugh about it in 6 months time.

 

Ash xoxoxo

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Defining Friendships

I am so blessed to have a small group of dear friends, however as a single girl I am always asked to define or explain these friendships to people, and I am always baffled as to how closed minded people seam to be to particular ideas, I mean we live in a modern society right?

Friend 1

Sex: Male

Length of Friendship: 14 Years

Relationship status: Single

This person I would define as one of my dearest friends, We had almost every class in High-school together, traveled through Europe, seen each other at our best and at our worst. We generally just tell people we are cousins or some form of relation to justify why we hang out so much when ever we are visiting one another, or do we just want to make it less hard for them to understand that we are just best friends…..you know boys and girls can be just friends right????

Friend 2

Sex: Male

Length of Friendship: 10 years

Relationship status: Playa

Friend 2 is a notorious ladies man, so I can see where people get the wrong idea however this person has dated many of my friends due to my “wing man” abilities…..(they aren’t that great) However this friend has provided some of the funniest and most memorable times in my life….And we make “bro night” a regular occasion when ever he is in town home from his fly in fly out job, and I have to say it’s fun just being an absolute clown for a night :P.

Friend 3.5 😛

Sex: Female

Relationship status: Married

Length of friendship: 10 years

Friend 3 is one of the most amazing people ever! (her husband is pretty great too…..apart for his choice in football team?!) I love going and visiting them both, I instantly feel at ease in their house… apart for that one time they (husband) tried to set me up with one of the groomsmen at their wedding….maybe it was 2 or 3 of them, maybe a first come first served basis who knows but i guess when you’re the only single bridesmaid other than the flower girls there isn’t much choice left, Regardless I love how I have been accepted into this family with open arms with no judgment about any of my decisions in life and they would do anything to help anyone, plus friend 3 loves living vicariously through me.

Friend 4 

Sex: Female

Length of friendship: 4.5years

Relationship status: Single

Friend 4 and I are not actually sure how we became friends, but aren’t those the best type of friendships. We are polar opposites of each other shes the “Cool Confidant Heavy Metal Hippy” and I’m the “Shy Quirky Mod Hipster” the best part of our friendship is our completely different taste in men…..well 95% of the time. I think I would run out of fingers if I had to count the times we have been asked if we are a “couple”, maybe we have just been single for that long people are trying to solve our “problem”

I feel like grabbing these people and saying “why do you need an explanation for my friendship? Why do I need to be pigeonholed? Why can’t I have a male best friend, spend my mights out with my other single friends?

My friends are an extension of my family and I am lucky to have them all around for the good times and the bad.

How have people tried to label you or your friends in the past?

Ashlee-Jean

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