Giving the fake life the flick!

FAKE

adjective
  1. not genuine; imitation or counterfeit.
    “she got on the plane with a fake passport”

Over the years I have begun to realize many things about people, that in turn has made me learn things about myself. I don’t know if its a case of “as i get older” or I don’t know, but over the last 6-12months I have found myself questioning my values, specifically “Fakeness”, I have had this discussion recently with a few close friends.

 

Toxic people always want you bring you down, but they will generally do it with a smile on their face while pretending to be a Friend to your face but behind your back you are no where near good enough to “hang with them” or “did you see what they were wearing” these people are not worth your time, like at all. Because to be honest not everyone in life is going to like you and its OK! you don’t have to like them either and guess what….that’s OK too!

Honesty is the best policy.

I am a firm believer in being nice to everyone generally they people I consider fake say nice things to peoples face but in the back ground are telling someone else how they didn’t really mean what they said, Manners go a long way, however I am not going out of my way to be sickly nice to someone I actually don’t like. This will often get you a reputation for being a bitch….but i think the fact that some people get so affronted by the fact someone may not like them  the only way they know to cope it to bitch behind your back or try to win over your affections is much worse (this actually turns me into a bitch when people start doing this)

Stop being afraid to be your self!

Stop trying to be like everyone else, we are all on our own journey, we are learning things from the people around us every day, we go through highs and lows at different times, surround your self with a handful of genuine people who listen, support, advise but ultimately let you make your own mistakes but will still  be there when it all comes crashing down to set you back on the path older and wiser and their to laugh about it in 6 months time.

 

Ash xoxoxo

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To Carb or Not to Carb? That is the Question…

On a daily basis we are bombarded with the idea Carbs are bad for us, Products claiming “new low carb formula”  Should we eat low carb? what is a carb?

What is a Carb? (Carbohydrate)

I asked a few people this question recently and most people responded Bread, Pasta and Potato a few people even believing “gluten free” food was free of carbs, I also find people perceive low carb as low calorie this is not always the case. Yes carbohydrates can be found in this food but typically foods like Yogurt, Milk, Sugary Foods (chocolate, candy) and Broccoli also contain the demonized “carb” just in different ratios and are made up of different Molecules.

There are also two types of carbs,

Simple- Generally found in processed foods like pasta, lollies and white breads. these carbs are relativity quick digesting.

Complex- Found in wholegrain and Natural foods like Sweet potato and other vegetables, rice and multi grain bread.

Carbohydrates specifically “glucose” are essential for us to live, let alone preform athletic activity’s it is the body’s preferred fuel. So with out Glucose there is no you and me.

 

In Scales we Trust???

Society’s fixation on putting a measurement on what is a “healthy” or “Ideal” weight has always astonished me, the pressure we endure trying to reach a particular number on the scales, Maybe its jealousy, I have never managed to get below 60kgs my entire life (and for me this was the hardest body weight to maintain, I was a cardio junky, i was clocking about 30ks min a week with light strength training and a calorie controlled diet, but not long after starting a more Strength based program I put on 4kgs like that, mind you all of my cloths still fit, so lets assume I was gaining muscle, at 64kgs it was easy to maintain I went on holidays for 6 weeks and went for the occasional run but being out 8-12pm each night doesn’t  really leave a lot of time to fit in workouts. After my return home I decided to start crossfit, this is something I have dabbled in over the years but I really wanted the challenge of starting to look at competing in the next 6-9 months, Lets me warn you…..if you start crossfit you might want to throw away your scales…After 2 months of crossfit I decided to step on them whilst looking after a friends house…..well i nearly fell over! 70KGS What The F**K! I was hitting Lift PBs, Moving Fast, Beginning to nail complex moves but what was with the weight gain, to look at me I could tell I had more “shape” in particular parts of my body particularly through the legs, bootay and shoulders I looked athletic and I hadn’t noticed a massive increase in fat on my body but we don’t always see clearly when we hit a set back or think we have failed at something.

After thinking about this in my head I knew some of this weight fluctuation was due to an increase of lean muscle mass was I beginning to beat myself up about not working hard enough or becoming fat again (When i was 21 i weighed 98Kgs at my heaviest) is it that we are told we should be a specific number on the scales? that we are always in the massive struggle to always be “dieting” or “working out” to loose those last few KGs, how about eating to nourish and support an active lifestyle, the min we dramatically decrease our caloric intake that’s less energy that can be used during a HITT workout and quite often get knocked on our ass a few days after a killer workout !   It took a few trusted people and a Dexa scan to bring me back down to earth. Finding out i was an incredible 51Kgs of muscle astonished me!

I will never know and or understand how celebrities on the cover of  trash magazines get down to 40kgs, I can guarantee they don’t exercise, But unfortunately these are the people that our young people look up too they are their “inspiration” I could never have the body of Kendal Jenner, to start with I am only 165cm tall, I am also a different build, plus lets face it shes not built to do the type of training I enjoy.

After successfully quitting sugar and only reintroducing small amounts of fruit and approved sweeteners (rice malt syrup and stevia)  I currently have found balance in my life by following the crossfit principles for eating, and following a zone diet, but this might not work for everyone I have just found it to be the most fool proof way of eating to follow with out having to calorie count or work out macros.

What being “The Single Girl” has taught me.

In today’s day and age I am forever noticing the lack of “boyfriend” in my life, to be honest I have never had a boyfriend and this has taught me so many things about myself, and also about how others feel about there permanently single friends.

  1. “your standards are too high” Now lets get one thing straight I don’t believe in love at first sight or any of that mumbojumbo but I’m not about to let someone penetrate me just because, I need to have some form of attraction to them otherwise you might as well sleep with everyone on the block, This also has nothing to do with looks, but for example i could think a guy is totally hot, then he pulls out a cigarette I instantly find that a major turn off. I guess what I’m getting at is just because I am single doesn’t mean i have to act like a desperate love rat!
  2. “this guy must be pulling the piss” I actually think that 90% of the time a guy might actually be hitting on me they are probably joking, I think this says more about how I personally perceive myself over how others see me, Or maybe its that is I see my love life as a joke #singlegirlproblems #whoneedaboyfriend
  3.  “You must love doing what you want all the time” lets go with yes 85% of the time its nice to go home and cook what I want for dinner, poor myself into bed at 3am and not have to explain where I have been and who I’ve been with, but on the opposite side its had to get home at the end of the day and not have any one to tell how good or bad your day was, no one to come to your crossfit comp and cheer you on while your married team mates have there partners there snapping awesome work out photos or your loved up friends are dealing with there own issues to really listen to yours.
  4. “I don’t know why they are asking me?” As the token single girl in many of my social circles I always have a chuckle when my friends come to me for relationship advice, and all I can do is give them advice about how they might be feeling and why, But a lot of the time i have no idea what to suggest! So I will most of the time just lend them an ear and provide some looking from the out side in advice.
  5. Maybe they find all your male friends intimidating” and so they should! But in all imperiousness, I could not date someone who wouldn’t allow me to hang with my guy buddies! major major major deal breaker!

I wouldn’t change anything in my life! Being single has lead me to so many great things, I have traveled to Japan solo, Europe and The States with 2 of my best friends, I have studied and run a small business, maybe one day someone will come along who compliments my lifestyle but until someone does I am quite content in life….85% of the time.

Am I Enough?

I’ve never really been the girl to attract male “suitors”  though out my entire life i can actually count on 1 hand….. if it was chopped in half how many times I have been asked out on a “date” …..I think i just dry heaved a little…..I hate the word “date” it makes me feel like what ever “this is” is more than it actually is and it also gives people the right to pass opinion on what they think “this is”.

I mean what “is this” really?, OK yea we have slept together a few times…..after 1am, Theres no way I could have been your first pic? really? and the second time was like connivance, OHHH geeezzeee 3 times! Don’t start to like him, you’ll only be disappointed when you see him in 5 years time with a girl that’s way more attractive than you! No that’t it im deleting his number!!!  OHHH Gawd! I’m knocking on your door @ 2am…..oh geeze I’ve had way too much too drink “CAN WE JUST CUDDLE…..No wait I am going to be sick, I need to go home!” maybe that was a “I’m taking you home….”  That’s it there is no coming back from that…..at allll, Trustttt me!!

Any way I digress The minuet a guy pays attention to me i feel the need to impress him, I want to feel accepted, this says a lot about how much self worth I have.

I often feel if I was ever interested in a male he wouldn’t be interested in me I always feel like I am batting above my weight like i have to prove to him how great I am, I don’t consider myself to be anything special at all, how ever I am fantastic fun maybe slightly left of center, when i don’t think your comparing me to the other 100000 beautiful girls that are better looking than me in the room, So i get a bit of “FIG” anxiety, now don’t mistake this for being shy around guys, 2 of my best friends are guys and I quite often hang around them more than my female friends, I just have no interest in Dating them, so maybe that’s why its so easy.

I shouldn’t be afraid to be myself, If you don’t like me that’s OK! Your not going to like me any more if my makeup is perfect or my hair isn’t how YOU like it. I am Different, I am Interdependent, I own a business, I Crossfit, I eat healthy, I prefer dogs  but most importantly I am ENOUGH!!!

Ashlee-Jean

Dating Guru (hahahahaha)

Courgette, Coconut and Lime Leaf Coffee Cake

food to glow

courgette, coconut and lime leaf coffee cake // food to glow  #baking #cakes #zucchiniMy niece is over from Florida for a wee bit and we have been busy climbing various green and gusty hills around Edinburgh, sipping beer and cider in dubious pubs, eating too much food, and just yesterday visiting a new attraction north of Edinburgh, The Kelpies.

Mythological beasts possessing the power of 100 horses The Kelpies of legend are here an arresting pair of horse head steel sculptures dominating an area once known for steel production. Horses and water were a vital part of this now-moribund industry and the sculptures honour not only the history of this area, but the horses and the flowing water that made it possible.

The Kelpies // food to glow The Kelpies, before the storm descended

Colourful, bunting-festooned canal boats line the lead up to these sky-catching sculptures, and on the other side pedestrians and cyclists wend their way through meadow land and marshes on a raised wooden path. The sky matched…

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My IQS life :)

Ive recently jumped on  the IQS bandwagon! (IQS=I Quit Sugar, I love abriviations it must be a crossfit thing)

I have always been conscious of the amount of sugar that I am putting into my body, but being a fitness professional I have always been calorie conscious (not as strict as some…..if your hungry eat! this is why we get hangry). IQS is not about calorie restriction its about J.E.R.F (just eat real food) its also not a weight loss program although some participants do experience weight-loss.

I feel Nourished, Clear Headed, Full Of life and Fighting Fit! what more could you want!

5 weeks ago I commenced my IQS journey, Like most things I’ve done in the past to change my life style I was met by critics please telling me “how unrealistic!” and “What are you actually going to eat?” and “where will you get your energy?” the last being my favorite, In saying this My Dad has been super supportive and has even taken note of some of the habitats that I have started and has been implementing them into his diet (How my Dad quit sugar! might be a flow up blog) this makes me super happy! and to boot one of my best mates and training buddies has also said he is going to sign up for the next round. One of the most important lesson I have learnt is you can not change how people fuel their body’s they will put in what they want don’t let it worry you, even after many of my clients/friends have asked advice of what they should eat how much they should eat, ect (keeping in mind as a cert 4 in fitness I can only provide general information) but if your not saying what they want to hear sometimes they wont change and this is OK.

So if i haven’t bored you enough all ready lets really dive in!

So IQUITSUGAR.COM  has an abundance of information, recipes, blogs and product reviews, and you have access to so much once you register for the 8 week program (personally the best $150aud i have spent!) once you register you can assess your starter kit with plenty of fact sheets for you to read and really prepare your self for the start of the program, the fact your going to go on this journey with people all over the world is amazing, please note northern hemispherians the program is based on food that’s in season in the southern hemisphere, but this is no biggy there is always substitutions.

One of the best things IQS has taught me is the art of preparation, “The Sunday Cookup” makes my life breeze during the week! It keeps me on track and saves me time! I bulk cook what ever is recommended like grains, legumes, coco nutty granola (this is my fav!) I also gook any soups, stews and slices as these keep in the fridge nicley for the week,  plus I also pre-cut, measure and bag up the ingredients for the rest of my meals so I can come home and pop it in the pan and cook it 🙂 this also saves on mess during the week.

Full fat products! yes that’s right! IQS is all about the good fats, when company’s make low fat yoghurts they take out all the naturally occurring fats that help keep you feeling full and loaded with nutrients then replace it with fructose and other preservatives to mimic its tasty full fat counterpart all for the sake of “lower calories” and normally 10 mins after eating it your hungry again and needing to eat more, So say goodbye to fat phobia!!

Clean week (4th week in) was defiantly the hardest for me, no coffee for 5 days!!! But I made it and now its over I can feel it really helped finish of the detoxing for me, this was the week I experienced most detox symptoms leg cramps, breakouts, anger and frustration but by Friday i felt like I was on top of the world.

This is my honest review of the I Quit Sugar Program! I have not been paid.

If your curious i recommend visiting the web site for more info!

I should also clarify by the last week of the program they reintroduce IQS approved sweeteners, but they do caution in eating these in moderation, sugar is still sugar at the end of the day!

Some interesting documentaries to watch about sugar, These really reinforced to myself why I am making these changes to my lifestyle!

-That Sugar Film

-Fed Up

-The Perfect Human Diet

Ashlee-Jean

Kiss Sugar Goodbye

Wraps

I’m attempting to start making my own bread, so getting in some reading…..I might tackle wraps next 😀

Fork or Spoon?

I love bread making there is something therapeutic about kneading dough and watching it rise. Home made wraps are so much more tasty than shop brought and you can add any spice or flavour you like. I added paprika to these wraps with some chilli flakes. Great snack with some humous and almond butter. This will make about 6 wraps.

Ingredients:

  • 250g strong white bread flour, with about 100g extra for dusting
  • 1 sachet (5g) fast action dried yeast
  • 5g table salt
  • 15g caster sugar
  • 20g butter at room temperature
  • 150ml water
  • Vegetable oil for frying

Method:

  • In a large bowl pour in the flour and add the yeast to one side and the salt and sugar to the other. Using a large metal spoon mix the dry ingredients together. Make a well in the middle and pour in the water and soft butter and use your fingers to mix…

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Defining Friendships

I am so blessed to have a small group of dear friends, however as a single girl I am always asked to define or explain these friendships to people, and I am always baffled as to how closed minded people seam to be to particular ideas, I mean we live in a modern society right?

Friend 1

Sex: Male

Length of Friendship: 14 Years

Relationship status: Single

This person I would define as one of my dearest friends, We had almost every class in High-school together, traveled through Europe, seen each other at our best and at our worst. We generally just tell people we are cousins or some form of relation to justify why we hang out so much when ever we are visiting one another, or do we just want to make it less hard for them to understand that we are just best friends…..you know boys and girls can be just friends right????

Friend 2

Sex: Male

Length of Friendship: 10 years

Relationship status: Playa

Friend 2 is a notorious ladies man, so I can see where people get the wrong idea however this person has dated many of my friends due to my “wing man” abilities…..(they aren’t that great) However this friend has provided some of the funniest and most memorable times in my life….And we make “bro night” a regular occasion when ever he is in town home from his fly in fly out job, and I have to say it’s fun just being an absolute clown for a night :P.

Friend 3.5 😛

Sex: Female

Relationship status: Married

Length of friendship: 10 years

Friend 3 is one of the most amazing people ever! (her husband is pretty great too…..apart for his choice in football team?!) I love going and visiting them both, I instantly feel at ease in their house… apart for that one time they (husband) tried to set me up with one of the groomsmen at their wedding….maybe it was 2 or 3 of them, maybe a first come first served basis who knows but i guess when you’re the only single bridesmaid other than the flower girls there isn’t much choice left, Regardless I love how I have been accepted into this family with open arms with no judgment about any of my decisions in life and they would do anything to help anyone, plus friend 3 loves living vicariously through me.

Friend 4 

Sex: Female

Length of friendship: 4.5years

Relationship status: Single

Friend 4 and I are not actually sure how we became friends, but aren’t those the best type of friendships. We are polar opposites of each other shes the “Cool Confidant Heavy Metal Hippy” and I’m the “Shy Quirky Mod Hipster” the best part of our friendship is our completely different taste in men…..well 95% of the time. I think I would run out of fingers if I had to count the times we have been asked if we are a “couple”, maybe we have just been single for that long people are trying to solve our “problem”

I feel like grabbing these people and saying “why do you need an explanation for my friendship? Why do I need to be pigeonholed? Why can’t I have a male best friend, spend my mights out with my other single friends?

My friends are an extension of my family and I am lucky to have them all around for the good times and the bad.

How have people tried to label you or your friends in the past?

Ashlee-Jean

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